10 Rules of Golden Communication
Can you guess what the most common characteristic of any successful relationship is? If you're answer had
anything to do with good communication, you're spot on.
Communication is important for the sustaining of not only a healthy relationship, but also a healthy community
and even nation.
In fact, one of the first things that enemies seek to do to one another as soon as a war starts is to break down
the other side's communication centers. Without effective communication, any relationship, community or even nation
is destined to come to an end.
So let's look at the golden rules of communication so that you can use these self improvement tips to build better
relationships in your life...
Compassion is the foundation of any healthy relationship. Compassion helps you to seek to understand people over
trying to disagree with them for the sake of proving yourself right and them wrong. Compassion also helps to listen
past a person's spoken words and to steer the meaning behind them.
To practice greater compassion, focus on the emotional needs which are important to the person you
are communicating with: the need for certainty, the need for significance, the need for purpose and the need for
2. Good Listening
There's a reason why you have two ears and one mouth, and that's because listening is at least twice as
important as talking...at least. People who talk a lot and listen very little usually don't learn a whole lot,
especially about the people around them.
But if you make it a habit to listen to people and turn off your inner dialogue about what you're going to say
next, you'll become much better at understanding people and communicating with them.
Good communication requires you to take responsibility for your own perceptions and to allow other people to be
responsible for their perceptions. Any attempt to overstep these boundaries will cloud your understanding and keep
you from effectively communicating with the other person.
Communication requires both good listening skills, but also the ability to make yourself understood to the other
person. Reciprocity allows you to do this and also gives you the opportunity to repeat what you believe the person
is saying to you and clarify with THEM that you understand them.
Few things are more frustrating to clear communication than dishonesty. If the person you are communicating with
is leaving out important facts, the truth, leaving the wrong impression or just flat out lying, the communication
between you and them will suffer.
Consistency means practicing the principles of good communication on a regular basis. People and circumstances
are changing on a consistent basis and you must practice this communication with the people who are important in
your life so that the relationship can grow and mature.
As mentioned before, it's important that you are clear in communicating yourself to the other person who is
listening to you. Sometimes, lack of understanding is because the person you're talking to is a poor listener...
but it should never be because you are unclear about your perspective or whatever else you're trying to communicate
TIP: The best way to practice clarity of communication is to keep a Journal of your thoughts and to write every
Humor makes communication interesting and exciting and tasteful use of it can add a lot of life and dimension to
your conversations with people. Just make sure that you know when to use humor and when not to.
9. Problem Solving
Much of the communication you engage in your life will be for the sake of coming up with a creative solution to
some kind of problem. Good problem solving skills required for you to be adept are skills of listening, compassion,
reciprocity and clarity. 10. Respect
The author Napoleon Hill said that disloyalty marks a person as low as the dust of the earth. When you speak to
another person, make sure that you're speaking to them in a manner which you would expect people to speak to you.
And most important, always speak about people in their absence as if they could hear you.
Wouldn't it be great to know what is going on inside the mind of the opposite sex? Conversation Chemistry will
teach you important forms of communication to create and maintain the relationships you want: