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10 Rules of Golden Communication

Can you guess what the most common characteristic of any successful relationship is? If you're answer had anything to do with good communication, you're spot on.

Communication is important for the sustaining of not only a healthy relationship, but also a healthy community and even nation.

In fact, one of the first things that enemies seek to do to one another as soon as a war starts is to break down the other side's communication centers. Without effective communication, any relationship, community or even nation is destined to come to an end.

So let's look at the golden rules of communication so that you can use these self improvement tips to build better relationships in your life...

1. Compassion

Compassion is the foundation of any healthy relationship. Compassion helps you to seek to understand people over trying to disagree with them for the sake of proving yourself right and them wrong. Compassion also helps to listen past a person's spoken words and to steer the meaning behind them.

To practice greater compassion, focus on the emotional needs which are important to the person you are communicating with: the need for certainty, the need for significance, the need for purpose and the need for variety.

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2. Good Listening

There's a reason why you have two ears and one mouth, and that's because listening is at least twice as important as least. People who talk a lot and listen very little usually don't learn a whole lot, especially about the people around them.

But if you make it a habit to listen to people and turn off your inner dialogue about what you're going to say next, you'll become much better at understanding people and communicating with them.

3. Responsibility 

Good communication requires you to take responsibility for your own perceptions and to allow other people to be responsible for their perceptions. Any attempt to overstep these boundaries will cloud your understanding and keep you from effectively communicating with the other person.

4. Reciprocity

Communication requires both good listening skills, but also the ability to make yourself understood to the other person. Reciprocity allows you to do this and also gives you the opportunity to repeat what you believe the person is saying to you and clarify with THEM that you understand them.  

5. Honesty

Few things are more frustrating to clear communication than dishonesty. If the person you are communicating with is leaving out important facts, the truth, leaving the wrong impression or just flat out lying, the communication between you and them will suffer.

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6. Consistency

Consistency means practicing the principles of good communication on a regular basis. People and circumstances are changing on a consistent basis and you must practice this communication with the people who are important in your life so that the relationship can grow and mature.

7. Clarity

As mentioned before, it's important that you are clear in communicating yourself to the other person who is listening to you. Sometimes, lack of understanding is because the person you're talking to is a poor listener... but it should never be because you are unclear about your perspective or whatever else you're trying to communicate to them.

TIP: The best way to practice clarity of communication is to keep a Journal of your thoughts and to write every day.

8. Humor

Humor makes communication interesting and exciting and tasteful use of it can add a lot of life and dimension to your conversations with people. Just make sure that you know when to use humor and when not to.

9. Problem Solving

Much of the communication you engage in your life will be for the sake of coming up with a creative solution to some kind of problem. Good problem solving skills required for you to be adept are skills of listening, compassion, reciprocity and clarity.  10. Respect

The author Napoleon Hill said that disloyalty marks a person as low as the dust of the earth. When you speak to another person, make sure that you're speaking to them in a manner which you would expect people to speak to you. And most important, always speak about people in their absence as if they could hear you.

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Wouldn't it be great to know what is going on inside the mind of the opposite sex? Conversation Chemistry will teach you important forms of communication to create and maintain the relationships you want: