The Power of Affirmations: How to Talk to Yourself
Have you ever considered just how important your self-talk really is when it comes to your personal growth and self
confidence? If not, just imagine what kind of influence your friends have on you when they talk to you...
...or how about your parents when you were growing up?
Now imagine this: you're around yourself more often than anyone else on this planet. That ought to give you an
idea of just how important it is to use empowering words when you speak to yourself.
But this takes practice, and if you aren't really choosing your self-talk, you've probably developed some bad
The following "affirmation workout" will help you to undo these habits and to form empowering and inspiring
First, a Basic Rule
As you begin to study the psychology of affirmations, it can become a little bit overwhelming that you have to
monitor your thoughts and your internal dialogue. There are so many things to remember:
...keep things affirmative, avoid negative thoughts, focus on what you want instead of what you don't want...
how in the world can you remember all those things?
Well, the good news is that you don't have to. All you have to do is follow the "Reverse Golden rule" - when it
comes to the way you speak to yourself: "Do unto yourself as you would have others do to you."
In other words, as you're listening to your self-talk, ask yourself: "Would I want to be around
someone 24-7 if they talk to me this way?" If not, "How would I prefer for them to talk to me?"
These two questions will help you to immediately redirect your self-talk without having to remember a lot of
details about what to say and what not to say.
Six Principles of Positive Affirmation
Now that you have a basic idea of how to monitor your self-talk, let's look at four principles for building your
daily affirmation exercises:
1. Action Based
The best affirmation statements are those which suggests
specific actions instead of just wishes like "I want to be more confident." Instead, ask yourself what you would
actually be doing if you were more confident, and use those verbs to build your affirmation. For example:
"I approach strangers with grace and enthusiasm."
2. Identity Based
Whenever possible, focus your affirmations more on changing your identity than on achieving goals. Yes, you want
to achieve your goals as well, but always ask yourself what kind of a person you need to become in order to achieve
your goal and build your affirmations around that.
Instead of making your affirmations about what you want to stop doing, what you want to lose or what you don't
want, make them about what you do want. Whenever possible, use words like: can, will, want, gain and am instead of
words like: can't, won't, don't, lose, stop and quit.
This will encourage you to focus on the result that you want instead of the results you want to avoid.
Your subconscious mind does not respond to vague requests and commands, so it's important for you to be specific
in your affirmations. This is another reason why action based affirmations are more effective. They give you
something specific to focus on instead of stating their wishes like
"I am confident and assertive" or "I am wealthy and financially secure."
TIP: Ask yourself exactly what you want to accomplish, determine what you have to do to accomplish it and build
your affirmations around those specific answers.
The most common reason why people fail in using positive affirmation is that they don't practice them on a
consistent daily basis.
You'll never be in a position in your life when you can stop training your mind to think proactively and
positively, there are simply too many opportunities for you to take on negative thinking habits.
Make a consistent daily practice of affirmations and always remember that personal growth and self improvement is a lifetime commitment.
You can easily make your own mind movie that give you powerful daily visual affirmations. Try it: